Honestly incredulation is not a word, I just made it up. Incredulation is that look you get from others when for whatever reason or another someone is simply aghast at the thought that you don’t agree with something. I get that a lot.
For instance, I grew up in the Bay Area of California. For a time we lived in Southern California but for the most part we stayed in Northern. It is quite beautiful actually, San Francisco is pretty incredible. From Golden Gate Park to the Golden Gate bridge the greenery is amazing. The further north you go the more beautiful it gets. Once you hit the Russian River, it is golden from there.
I love it, everybody knows that about me. You would too if you would open your mind up and take a drive up the coast of California. Just wow. It is my home, it is where my heart is and it is where I want to move back to. I am sorry but for all the beauty I do find in Colorado it does not hold a candle to California to me. My dislike of Colorado is not hidden from anyone and that brings me to the subject.
I get reamed often when I say I prefer California. I get the wide eyed stare as the Colorado lover stares and tries to take in the fact that I just disagreed with the whole God’s country thing people have about Colorado. Then after a stammer or two the barrage of questions……How could you NOT adore Colorado? Are you crazy? ( yes, but that isn’t the point ) Then the generalized statement about the economy, the smog, the politics yada yada yada. It is like I just said I love a rapist.
Isn’t that what we christians do to each other though when someone does not love what we love the way that we love it? We judge others by what we hold valuable and to some extent what they hold valuable using that information to make a call on who they are as a person. Having been guilty of this I feel qualified to say something about it.
Why do we find it necessary to make others justify what they love, who they love and why they love it? Why does it matter if I hate Colorado? Or what if I don’t agree with a teaching or a pastor or a church? Unless I am degrading a particular thing I am doing nothing wrong by having a different opinion.
We act as if we have cornered the market on who God is. At this time let me be clear about my beliefs. I believe everything in the scriptures is truth. I am a christian ( i don’t love that label but for now it serves a purpose ) I believe in God the Father, Son and Holy Spirit, 3 beings in one and I believe that Jesus Christ is the son of God both fully God and fully human, that he died on the cross for my sins and rose from the dead three days later and is now transforming me into something infinitely better than I would ever be on my own. So having got that out of the way back into my tirade.
The incredulation thing usually happens when you leave a church or you say you don’t like this pastor for that reason. You may not be saying anything except that the church or denomination or ministry is just not your flavor. Nothing bad and nothing personal just a difference in opinion.
We “christians” need to take a long hard look at ourselves and how we deal with people who differ from us. The Word says we will be known by our love one for another but most of the world seems to notice us for our infighting. That is a sad thing to me.
Personally I think the only one who should get to look at anyone with incredulation is God. “WHAAATTTTT??? ARE YOU CRAZY?????YOU DON’T BELIEVE IN ME?????!! I DON’T GET IT…..WHAT IS THERE NOT TO LOVE ABOUT ME?????!!!!!” or “WHATTTTTT? YOU BELIEVE IN EVOLUTION? HOW STUPID CAN YOU BE?” Then the look of disgust, then He should be able to begin hammering us about how wrong we are.
But God doesn’t do that does He?
Curious to me that we the created seem to think we should have more to say about the Creator. Look at us taking liberties with His bigness. We are like the selfish little seven year old yelling that “our dad” is bigger than “your dad” and is going to beat you up if you don’t agree with me.
I say these things because I am guilty of doing this too.
How about if we let God be the judge of others hearts and intentions and we begin to deal with others as if they really mattered even if our opinions are different? How about if we let God be the huge God that He is and we quit trying to make Him over into our little demi-god. We the church should be mirroring God’s love and grace. It is not supposed to be the other way around. God did not make us so that He could reflect us through Him but so that we would reflect His glory through our lives, we are only the created, not the creator.
I get tired of proving myself, or at least the feeling that I need to prove or defend my heart. I hope that I have had enough of others incredualtion and indignation that I will stop doing that to others. I don’t mind being challenged in so far as it is a challenge to grow and change and be better. What I mind is the attack on my beliefs or the things I love.
I honestly do not like Colorado. I can appreciate it’s beauty and I can appreciate why others find this place to be a slice of heaven, but my heart is forever in Northern California. I hope that I can take this lesson and apply it to the lives of others. I may not love what they love but I can love them and appreciate that maybe I don’t know everything. I might not want to go to your church or listen to your favorite pastor but hopefully I can stem my own incredulation and just love you anyway.